I read this article on Newsweek's site and it really resonated with me. I'm wondering if anyone else can relate? As a preview, here's my favorite line:
"Treating the whole world as if it works for you doesn't suggest you're special, it means you're an ass."
Generation Me
A new book says we're in a narcissism epidemic. Why you're not so special.
By Raina Kelley | NEWSWEEK
Growing up, my literary heroines were those who, like me, struggled to be good: Jo from "Little Women," Harriet the spy, Laura Ingalls and Pippi Longstocking. A strong-willed (and loud) child, I craved examples of unruly knuckleheads tethered to a loving family that encouraged us to be our best selves despite our natural inclinations. Precocious but naive, I thought of myself as an ugly duckling—misunderstood in my youth but destined for a beauty and stature completely impossible for my loved ones to comprehend. I shudder to think what a monster I would have become in the modern child-rearing era. Gorged on a diet of grade inflation, constant praise and materialistic entitlement, I probably would have succumbed to a life of heedless self- indulgence.
Perhaps, one day, we will say that the recession saved us from a parenting ethos that churns out ego-addled spoiled brats. And though it is too soon to tell if our economic free fall will cure America of its sense of economic privilege, it has made it much harder to get the money together to give our kids six-figure sweet-16 parties and plastic surgery for graduation presents, all in the name of "self esteem." And that's a good thing, because as Jean Twenge and W. Keith Campbell point out in their excellent book "The Narcissism Epidemic," released last week, we've built up the confidence of our kids, but in that process, we've created a generation of hot-house flowers puffed with a disproportionate sense of self-worth (the definition of narcissism) and without the resiliency skills they need when Mommy and Daddy can't fix something.
Indeed, when Twenge addressed students at Southern Connecticut State University a couple weeks back, their generation's narcissism was taken as a given by her audience. The fact that nearly 10 percent of 20-somethings have already experienced symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder, compared with just over 3 percent of the 65-and-over set? Not surprising. That 30 percent of college students agree with the statement: "If I show up to every class, I deserve at least a B"? Didn't get much of a rise either. When they're faced with the straight-out question—do you agree with this research, that you guys are the most narcissistic generation ever—there are uniform head nods and knowing grins to each other. "At the end of the day I love me and I don't think that's wrong," says Sharise Tucker, a 21-year-old senior at Southern Connecticut State, a self-professed narcissist. "I don't think it's a problem, having most people love themselves. I love me."
But as Twenge goes on to illustrate, all that narcissism is a problem that can range from the discourteous—residential advisers at Southern lament students disregarding curfews, playing dance music until 3 a.m., demanding new room assignments at a moment's notice and failing to understand why professors won't let them make up an exam they were too hung over to take—to the disastrous—failed marriages, abusive working environments and billion-dollar Ponzi schemes. Seems that the flip side of all that confidence isn't prodigious success but antisocial behavior.
Armed with a steady influx of trophies just for showing up, "I Am Special" coloring books and princess parties, it is hard for kids to understand why an abundance of ego might be bad for them. Hot off their own rebellions in the late '60s, my parents struggled to give me the freedom to be me while also teaching me generosity, compassion and humility. I didn't make it easy on them. I was the kind of kid who threatened to drink Drano if asked to load the dishwasher. "Don't get cocky, kid," was the response from my dad when I declared my grades too good for my behavior to be monitored. "Pretty girls are a dime a dozen," my mother would remind me when I came up with the brilliant idea that school was getting in the way of my social life. My mom would also trot out fables to keep me in check. Ever read the original ending to Cinderella? The evil stepsisters get their eyes plucked out by pigeons and end up beggars. But it worked, mostly, and "Don't believe your own bulls––t" became my mantra. Of course, I still hate to be told what to do, dislike following rules and will waste hours trying to get out of the simplest household task; but hey, I'm a work in progress.
But no matter how you were raised, the handiest cure for narcissism used to be life. Whether through fate, circumstances or moral imperative, our culture kept hubris in check. Now, we encourage it. Pastors preach of a Jesus that wants us to be rich. The famously egocentric wide receiver Terrell Owens declares at a press conference that being labeled selfish is fine with him. Donald Trump names everything he owns after himself and calls his detractors "losers." We live in a world where everyone can be a star—if only on YouTube. The general sense among students on that New Haven campus is that with the world being such a competitive, cutthroat place, they have to be narcissists. Well, you may need a supersize ego to win "America's Next Top Model" or to justify your multimillion dollar bonus. But last I checked, most of our lives don't require all that attitude. Treating the whole world as if it works for you doesn't suggest you're special, it means you're an ass. As an antidote to a skyrocketing self-worth, Twenge recommends humility, evaluating yourself more accurately, mindfulness and putting others first. Such values may seem quaint, maybe even self-defeating, to those of us who think we're special, but trust me: it gets easier with practice.
With Sarah Kliff
© 2009
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Friday, April 24, 2009
Does anyone else have this problem?
You know what I did today? I had a list of things to get done, and most of them required a little time and effort--like doing my bookkeeping for the business, sewing more eye pillows for my students, vacuuming the house,etc--but they absolutely have to get done. So what did I do? Answered a couple of emails (not a real priority), searched my photo library (to post here becasue Lauren asked in her post about Obama's dog to see a photo of my dog), boiled some eggs (definitely not a priority), and designed an evaluation form for my high school, which wasn't even on my list of things to do because it isn't in any way a priority and it isn't my job to do it. I just happened to think of it this morning when in the shower.
This happens to me all the time. I will get emails from friends, and because it takes a little time and effort, I'll put it off until I have some free time. Yeah, right. Months go by, the emails get buried further and further down in my mailbox, then when I'm cleaning out my emails, I realize I never answered. BUT, I'll answer unimportant emails quickly because it takes only a moment of my time.
But what is really the problem is that I end up with a list of things that all require time, and then I feel overwhelmed that there is so much to do.
Sue will most likely have a litany of ways to organize myself and my day to avoid this, but I actually know already what those things are. Do it when it comes in to avoid a huge inbox pile. I know what to do, I just don't do it.
Does anyone else have this problem?
Linda
Monday, April 20, 2009
Break out the Butter, Cheese, and Wine
It turns out that low saturated fat as a way of reducing heart disease is not supported by scientific evidence. AT ALL. none. nadda. nothing.
The notion that low fat high carb is good is exactly the opposite of reality as many of us foodies have long suspected.
there is a new study out which leads to the following conclusion;
Taken as a whole, I think the findings of this systematic review can be summarised as follows: a low fat, high carb diet is bad for the heart. And, again, a close inspection of the science gives us no reason at all to cut back on saturated fat.
References: 1. Mente A, et al. A Systematic Review of the Evidence Supporting a Causal Link Between Dietary Factors and Coronary Heart Disease. Arch Intern Med. 2009;169(7):659-669. DrBriffa.com
In fact if you want to reduce your risk of heart disease- the list of positives is pretty much opposite from what most of us have been told for decades.
fat good (except for the evil manufactured trans-fat) vitamins E and C, Fish esp. salmon and other omega-3 fatty fishes, fruits, veggies, whole grains, fiber, nuts and wine!
Anyone want to join me in a baguette, some creamy cheeses and a good burgundy? YUM
crossposted from my life- and political blog www.fightingliberals.com
What Not to Wear...to Work
I am continually amazed at the things people will wear to work. I know lots of workplaces have casual dress these days and I wholeheartedly embrace that. But, come on, folks, there are certain things you should never wear to work. On my commute this morning I saw the following...
1) Crocs - great for gardening, not for work
2) 99 cent drugstore flip flops with a suit - is it only in DC where this look is so 'in'?
3) Ripped pantyhose - I'm not talking one tiny run, I'm talking several huge holes and runs on both legs. There's no way this woman didn't notice.
4) Ripped jeans
5) Tank tops with bra straps hanging out - That is never a good look and particularly not in an office (especially when it's 50 and raining).
6) A beer t-shirt
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Surprises and Disasters, Angels and Enemies
Some short sketches from my online writing class this month.
Surprises;
Surprise! I look at this as a positive- happy surprise happily unexpected happenings. My friend is a bit of pessimist-- and to her- Surprises are usually bad news. Surprises are something to be worried over-- dreaded. I find it hard to put myself in her shoes. I am not sure why she is like this-- she has had some bad news in her life, we all have. But she's had some wonderful surprises too.
Disasters;
I live in japan where the real chance of a major earthquake is a real daily possibility. It informs how buildings are built, how your dishes are stored, how you react to even incidental shaking -- like when a heavy truck passes by. I come from a place where this is not a common thing, and even after years living in Japan I can't really adjust.
Weirdoes;
My friends and I are weirdoes. We are proudly strange. And we recognize and make space for others of our tribe. Weirdoes unite! Austin, Texas has a great city slogan. "Keep Austin Weird!" I love it. I think there are infinite lessons to be learned from infinite diversity.
Enemies;
Sometimes I am too direct. Too pushy. Too opinionated. It gets me in trouble. And it makes enemies where I least expect them. There is a woman on the board of my women's group with me-- she's taken my outspoken opinions as a reason for a pitched battle. It is exhausting. But I don't want to be one of those people who hides what I am thinking. Shouldn't I be able to tell her what I think without her taking it as a measure of her self worth?
Angels;
My better angels are the little lessons I can play in my head. Like downloadable video, given to me by my mom, grandmom, friends, and family. Little lessons I've learned from them or with them as we travel through life. Like a library of positive youtube videos that I can play whenever I want. (except with better resolution).
Dreams;
I have so many dreams- so many aspirations. I hope I can achieve even 10% of my dreams. It would be a life well lived. If I had a room of my own-- an office or play space-- I would make the walls all made of blackboards and I would write all of my dreams all over them in different colored chalk. Adding and filling in my whole environment with my dream ideas and projects. Creating a constant reminder of what really matters to me.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Help! I need questions to ask Kevin Spacey and others
I have an opportunity to go to the Common Wealth Awards banquet at the Hotel Du Pont (Delaware) in a week. The 2009 Common Wealth Awards of Distinguished Service will honor four world-renowned individuals at a special ceremony in Wilmington, Delaware. This year's recipients, who will share a prize of $200,000 will appear at a press conference.
Honorees will be available as a group for media questions and photographs during the press conference. he awards are given to:
-Kevin Spacey, Academy Award-winning actor and artistic director of London’s Old Vic Theatre Company, for Dramatic Arts
· Doris Kearns Goodwin, presidential historian and Pulitzer Prize-winning author, for Mass Communications
· Col. Buzz Aldrin, USAF (Ret.), Sc.D., legendary astronaut and lunar explorer, for Science
· Don DeLillo, preeminent American novelist and a leading figure of postmodern literature, for Literature
Five journalists/free lancers from the Delaware Press Association are given the chance to ask questions and I get to be one of them.
Now I need to come up with some worthy questions.
Any ideas?
Sue
Honorees will be available as a group for media questions and photographs during the press conference. he awards are given to:
-Kevin Spacey, Academy Award-winning actor and artistic director of London’s Old Vic Theatre Company, for Dramatic Arts
· Doris Kearns Goodwin, presidential historian and Pulitzer Prize-winning author, for Mass Communications
· Col. Buzz Aldrin, USAF (Ret.), Sc.D., legendary astronaut and lunar explorer, for Science
· Don DeLillo, preeminent American novelist and a leading figure of postmodern literature, for Literature
Five journalists/free lancers from the Delaware Press Association are given the chance to ask questions and I get to be one of them.
Now I need to come up with some worthy questions.
Any ideas?
Sue
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Bo-Bama And Doggie Envy
There is study after study that indicates that having a pet- and especially having a dog helps people reduce their stress, lowers blood pressure, and creates happy and relaxed thinking. So I think it is GREAT that our new president and First Family have a new dog.
I LOVE this photo of President Obama and the new first dog. What a joyous shot. They are clearly already bonding. And he (the president I mean) looks positively buoyant- his feet are not even touching the ground as he races down the hall! How totally cute.
One of the things I am sad about in my life-- is not having a dog. We had a dog in my family from when I was born-- straight through to when I moved to Japan- and I have been dogless for 11 years now. It is a sad state of affairs but my lifestyle and small small small apartment won't allow for a pooch- esp. since I like mid to large sized dogs. I am left then to live vicariously through the doggies of others. And through LOL dogs of course.
Tricia's answers
What did you eat for Easter dinner and where? Homemade whole wheat pasta with pesto and tomatoes and fresh baked bread
What is the most recent movie that you have seen? Mamma Mia
Where were you born? Dallas, TX
Name three places where you have lived: Dallas, TX; Roanoke, VA; Arnold, MD
Have you ever been in a car accident (explain briefly, if answer is yes). Yes, a couple. Two when I was growing up (one with my mom - we slid on an icy street and were part of a 15 car pile up; one with my dad - some guy ran a light and hit us). Luckily, neither was very serious. I was in one other of my own doing - a woman stalled in front of me and I ran into her. I was only going about 10 MPH and did no damage to her car, but she sued me anyway, claiming pain and suffering. She lost.
What is your favorite day of the week and why? Sunday. I usually have all my errands and chores done by the afternoon and have time to spend by myself, doing whatever I want.
What is your favorite flower? Daisy
What is your favorite sport to watch? Football or golf. The Master's last weekend was great!
What is your favorite ice cream? I'm not a huge ice cream fan, but I guess Rocky Road is my fave.
Have you ever been on a ship? Yes.
How many times did you fail your driver's test? Once. My mom watched the whole thing and couldn't figure out what I did wrong. The tester's claim that I hit a cone parallel parking was, according to my mother, incorrect. She contends that he failed me because I was the first test of the day and he was grumpy. Whatever the reason, I went back the next day - in the afternoon - and passed with flying colors.
What do you do when you are bored? I am rarely bored, but I guess I'd say I read or take the dog for a walk.
Park or Zoo? Definitely the park.
Pearls or diamonds? Neither these days, but in high school I never went anywhere without my strand of pearls!
Beach or Mountains? I like both, but would probably pick beach before mountains.
How spicy do you like your food (1= not spicy, 5= get the fire extinguisher)? 5+++
Do you have pets? If so, what kind? Yes, I have a dog named Crazy Legs, a cat named Boo and another (very expensive) cat named Sister.
What do you want to do before you die? Wow - too many things to list here. I have a list of 100 things that I am slowly working my way through.
Do you still have your tonsils? Yep.
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done? I guess skydiving, although I didn't really think it was dangerous at the time. Trapeze school was kind of dangerous too.
What is your favorite smell? Fresh cut grass
Do you consider yourself strong? Yes.
What book are you reading now? The Middle Place by Kelly Corrigan
What is your favorite book? It's hard to pick a favorite, but I was really inspired by Three Cups of Tea by Greg Mortensen, and I'd have to say that Ellen Gilchrist is my favorite author.
Four places you have been on vacation: Alaska, Maine, Italy, Denmark
Three things you do every day (not including hair combing, teeth brushing, etc.): Feed the pets, check e-mail, do some sort of physical activity
Three things you are passionate about: Family (to include my pets), running, education
What is the most recent movie that you have seen? Mamma Mia
Where were you born? Dallas, TX
Name three places where you have lived: Dallas, TX; Roanoke, VA; Arnold, MD
Have you ever been in a car accident (explain briefly, if answer is yes). Yes, a couple. Two when I was growing up (one with my mom - we slid on an icy street and were part of a 15 car pile up; one with my dad - some guy ran a light and hit us). Luckily, neither was very serious. I was in one other of my own doing - a woman stalled in front of me and I ran into her. I was only going about 10 MPH and did no damage to her car, but she sued me anyway, claiming pain and suffering. She lost.
What is your favorite day of the week and why? Sunday. I usually have all my errands and chores done by the afternoon and have time to spend by myself, doing whatever I want.
What is your favorite flower? Daisy
What is your favorite sport to watch? Football or golf. The Master's last weekend was great!
What is your favorite ice cream? I'm not a huge ice cream fan, but I guess Rocky Road is my fave.
Have you ever been on a ship? Yes.
How many times did you fail your driver's test? Once. My mom watched the whole thing and couldn't figure out what I did wrong. The tester's claim that I hit a cone parallel parking was, according to my mother, incorrect. She contends that he failed me because I was the first test of the day and he was grumpy. Whatever the reason, I went back the next day - in the afternoon - and passed with flying colors.
What do you do when you are bored? I am rarely bored, but I guess I'd say I read or take the dog for a walk.
Park or Zoo? Definitely the park.
Pearls or diamonds? Neither these days, but in high school I never went anywhere without my strand of pearls!
Beach or Mountains? I like both, but would probably pick beach before mountains.
How spicy do you like your food (1= not spicy, 5= get the fire extinguisher)? 5+++
Do you have pets? If so, what kind? Yes, I have a dog named Crazy Legs, a cat named Boo and another (very expensive) cat named Sister.
What do you want to do before you die? Wow - too many things to list here. I have a list of 100 things that I am slowly working my way through.
Do you still have your tonsils? Yep.
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done? I guess skydiving, although I didn't really think it was dangerous at the time. Trapeze school was kind of dangerous too.
What is your favorite smell? Fresh cut grass
Do you consider yourself strong? Yes.
What book are you reading now? The Middle Place by Kelly Corrigan
What is your favorite book? It's hard to pick a favorite, but I was really inspired by Three Cups of Tea by Greg Mortensen, and I'd have to say that Ellen Gilchrist is my favorite author.
Four places you have been on vacation: Alaska, Maine, Italy, Denmark
Three things you do every day (not including hair combing, teeth brushing, etc.): Feed the pets, check e-mail, do some sort of physical activity
Three things you are passionate about: Family (to include my pets), running, education
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Jocelyn's answers
What did you eat for Easter dinner and where? I actually forgot it was Easter Sunday because a) I live in Japan and b) I was busy figuring out visa papers so that I can stay in Japan for another 3 years
What is the most recent movie that you have seen:
The Matador--saw it last night
Where were you born:
Thibodaux, Louisiana
Name three places where you have lived:
1. Lafayette, Louisiana
2. Le Mans, France
3. Hadano, Japan
Have you ever been in a car accident
yes
What is your favorite day of the week and why: Don't have one, really
What is your favorite flower:
Hydrangea
What is your favorite sport to watch:
none, really
What is your favorite ice cream:
Bluebell: Banana Split
Have you ever been on a ship:
We took our first cruise in February: 4 days on the Nile
How many times did you fail your driver's test:
none
What do you do when you are bored:
wonder how to stop being bored
Park or Zoo:
both
Pearls or diamonds:
both
Beach or Mountains:
mountains: preferably the Lake District
How spicy do you like your food
lots of flavor, a little fire, if necessary
Do you have pets?
We had to give away 3 cats to move to Japan. It still hurts.
What do you want to do before you die?
See as much of the world as possible, while also going home, wherever that is.
Do you still have your tonsils?
Yes
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done?
driving Louisiana roads after a football game
What is your favorite smell?
fresh flowers
Do you consider yourself strong?
yes
What book are you reading now?
Away, by Amy Bloom
What is your favorite book:
Hard to say. Recently, I've really liked Mr. Pip
Four places you have been on vacation:
1. Paris
2. Bangkok
3. England & Wales
4. Egypt
Three things you do every day
1. email & surf web
2. eat
3. think
Three things you are passionate about
1. my husband
2. teaching
3. pleasure
What is the most recent movie that you have seen:
The Matador--saw it last night
Where were you born:
Thibodaux, Louisiana
Name three places where you have lived:
1. Lafayette, Louisiana
2. Le Mans, France
3. Hadano, Japan
Have you ever been in a car accident
yes
What is your favorite day of the week and why: Don't have one, really
What is your favorite flower:
Hydrangea
What is your favorite sport to watch:
none, really
What is your favorite ice cream:
Bluebell: Banana Split
Have you ever been on a ship:
We took our first cruise in February: 4 days on the Nile
How many times did you fail your driver's test:
none
What do you do when you are bored:
wonder how to stop being bored
Park or Zoo:
both
Pearls or diamonds:
both
Beach or Mountains:
mountains: preferably the Lake District
How spicy do you like your food
lots of flavor, a little fire, if necessary
Do you have pets?
We had to give away 3 cats to move to Japan. It still hurts.
What do you want to do before you die?
See as much of the world as possible, while also going home, wherever that is.
Do you still have your tonsils?
Yes
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done?
driving Louisiana roads after a football game
What is your favorite smell?
fresh flowers
Do you consider yourself strong?
yes
What book are you reading now?
Away, by Amy Bloom
What is your favorite book:
Hard to say. Recently, I've really liked Mr. Pip
Four places you have been on vacation:
1. Paris
2. Bangkok
3. England & Wales
4. Egypt
Three things you do every day
1. email & surf web
2. eat
3. think
Three things you are passionate about
1. my husband
2. teaching
3. pleasure
Lauren's Answers
What did you eat for Easter dinner and where?
I worked Brunch at our restaurant- we served a ham special, and some other tasty brunch specials including quiche and eggs florentine.
What is the most recent movie that you have seen:
The Watchmen- very good but pretty bloody.
Where were you born:
Bloomsburg Pennsylvania
Name three places where you have lived:
1. St. Thomas USVI
2. Philadelphia Pa.
3. Tokyo Japan
Have you ever been in a car accident
nope.
What is your favorite day of the week and why: Changes all the time.
Right now I like fridays! I am off all that day and usually keep it free of meetings and obligations.
What is your favorite flower:
Star Gazer lilies, lilac, and painted daises
What is your favorite sport to watch:
live-- baseball
TV- football
What is your favorite ice cream:
rum raisin
Have you ever been on a ship:
YUP my family used to sail A LOT
and I also went on a cruise with my mom and my grandma before she passed away.
How many times did you fail your driver's test:
none
What do you do when you are bored:
I am never ever bored
Park or Zoo:
both for me too.
Pearls or diamonds:
Pearls
Beach or Mountains:
the beach ABSOLUTELY
How spicy do you like your food
4 Pretty hot but not so bad you can't taste anything else.
Do you have pets?
I want pets soooooooo badly it is painful. But my lifestyle and tiny apartment make it impossible.
What do you want to do before you die?
See as much of the world as possible.
Do you still have your tonsils?
Yes
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done?
Rock Climbing-- Big rock faces. Lots of fun.
What is your favorite smell?
coffee, bacon, chocolate chip cookies baking.
Do you consider yourself strong?
yes- too much so at times
What book are you reading now?
Growing the Green Economy
What is your favorite book:
I don't really have a fav. too many that I love.
Four places you have been on vacation:
1. Sydney
2. Munich
3. Vienna
4. Austin
Three things you do every day
1. email, email and more email
2. some writing
3. long long hot hot showers in the morning
Three things you are passionate about
1. politics
2. food
3. community
-Lauren
I worked Brunch at our restaurant- we served a ham special, and some other tasty brunch specials including quiche and eggs florentine.
What is the most recent movie that you have seen:
The Watchmen- very good but pretty bloody.
Where were you born:
Bloomsburg Pennsylvania
Name three places where you have lived:
1. St. Thomas USVI
2. Philadelphia Pa.
3. Tokyo Japan
Have you ever been in a car accident
nope.
What is your favorite day of the week and why: Changes all the time.
Right now I like fridays! I am off all that day and usually keep it free of meetings and obligations.
What is your favorite flower:
Star Gazer lilies, lilac, and painted daises
What is your favorite sport to watch:
live-- baseball
TV- football
What is your favorite ice cream:
rum raisin
Have you ever been on a ship:
YUP my family used to sail A LOT
and I also went on a cruise with my mom and my grandma before she passed away.
How many times did you fail your driver's test:
none
What do you do when you are bored:
I am never ever bored
Park or Zoo:
both for me too.
Pearls or diamonds:
Pearls
Beach or Mountains:
the beach ABSOLUTELY
How spicy do you like your food
4 Pretty hot but not so bad you can't taste anything else.
Do you have pets?
I want pets soooooooo badly it is painful. But my lifestyle and tiny apartment make it impossible.
What do you want to do before you die?
See as much of the world as possible.
Do you still have your tonsils?
Yes
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done?
Rock Climbing-- Big rock faces. Lots of fun.
What is your favorite smell?
coffee, bacon, chocolate chip cookies baking.
Do you consider yourself strong?
yes- too much so at times
What book are you reading now?
Growing the Green Economy
What is your favorite book:
I don't really have a fav. too many that I love.
Four places you have been on vacation:
1. Sydney
2. Munich
3. Vienna
4. Austin
Three things you do every day
1. email, email and more email
2. some writing
3. long long hot hot showers in the morning
Three things you are passionate about
1. politics
2. food
3. community
-Lauren
Sue's answers
What did you eat for Easter dinner and where?
Chicken at home. Gary didn't eat. We had gone to a big brunch with friends and neither of us had much of an appetite later in the day.
What is the most recent movie that you have seen: Henry Poole is here.
Where were you born: Manhattan, NY
Name three places where you have lived:
1) Queens, NY
2) Newark, DE
3) Wilmington, DE
Have you ever been in a car accident (explain briefly, if answer is yes): three, in the car with my mother as a kid. Someone ran a stop sign she had to stop abruptly (pre-seatbelt law) my head cracked the windshield. Yes, explains a lot. Minor rear end collision in a spring break incident (passenger) and a minor fender bender about 20 years ago when car in front stopped for no apparent reason.
What is your favorite day of the week and why: Friday, the promise of the weekend.
What is your favorite flower: Lilacs and Lilly of the Valley
What is your favorite sport to watch: Not very sports oriented anymore. The occasional minor league baseball game and a hot dog is fun.
What is your favorite ice cream: Can't eat chocolate anymore, so probaby coffee or Hagen Daz dulce du leche
Have you ever been on a ship: A bon voyage party for my grandparents on the QE2. Does a ferry on the English Channel count?
How many times did you fail your driver's test: once
What do you do when you are bored: Doesn't happen much. Catch up, read, or return calls.
Park or Zoo: Park
Pearls or diamonds: My favorite pieces are neither. I love my antique and costume jewelry. Most belonged to my mother but a few pieces from flea markets.
Beach or Mountains: Beach first, mountains a nice second.
How spicy do you like your food (1= not spicy, 5= get the fire extinguisher)? 5
Do you have pets? None. Now allergic to cats and not home enough for a dog.
What do you want to do before you die? Travel more.
Do you still have your tonsils? No
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done? Dangerous or stupid? Dangerous: Hitchhiking. Stupid: Driving a stolen car
What is your favorite smell? many - Lilacs, Lily of the Valley, vanilla (during baking prep), the beach, Gary (not necessarily in that order.)
Do you consider yourself strong? Yes, physically, emotionally...Most of the time.
What book are you reading now? David Allen, Getting things done.
What is your favorite book: can't decide.
Four places you have been on vacation:
1) Maui
2) Italy
3) France
4) Austria
Three things you do every day (not including hair combing, teeth brushing, etc.)
1) Eat breakfast/dinner with Gary
2) work
3) drive
Three things you are passionate about
1) my business - organizing
2) my marriage
3) Lew's wellbeing
Chicken at home. Gary didn't eat. We had gone to a big brunch with friends and neither of us had much of an appetite later in the day.
What is the most recent movie that you have seen: Henry Poole is here.
Where were you born: Manhattan, NY
Name three places where you have lived:
1) Queens, NY
2) Newark, DE
3) Wilmington, DE
Have you ever been in a car accident (explain briefly, if answer is yes): three, in the car with my mother as a kid. Someone ran a stop sign she had to stop abruptly (pre-seatbelt law) my head cracked the windshield. Yes, explains a lot. Minor rear end collision in a spring break incident (passenger) and a minor fender bender about 20 years ago when car in front stopped for no apparent reason.
What is your favorite day of the week and why: Friday, the promise of the weekend.
What is your favorite flower: Lilacs and Lilly of the Valley
What is your favorite sport to watch: Not very sports oriented anymore. The occasional minor league baseball game and a hot dog is fun.
What is your favorite ice cream: Can't eat chocolate anymore, so probaby coffee or Hagen Daz dulce du leche
Have you ever been on a ship: A bon voyage party for my grandparents on the QE2. Does a ferry on the English Channel count?
How many times did you fail your driver's test: once
What do you do when you are bored: Doesn't happen much. Catch up, read, or return calls.
Park or Zoo: Park
Pearls or diamonds: My favorite pieces are neither. I love my antique and costume jewelry. Most belonged to my mother but a few pieces from flea markets.
Beach or Mountains: Beach first, mountains a nice second.
How spicy do you like your food (1= not spicy, 5= get the fire extinguisher)? 5
Do you have pets? None. Now allergic to cats and not home enough for a dog.
What do you want to do before you die? Travel more.
Do you still have your tonsils? No
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done? Dangerous or stupid? Dangerous: Hitchhiking. Stupid: Driving a stolen car
What is your favorite smell? many - Lilacs, Lily of the Valley, vanilla (during baking prep), the beach, Gary (not necessarily in that order.)
Do you consider yourself strong? Yes, physically, emotionally...Most of the time.
What book are you reading now? David Allen, Getting things done.
What is your favorite book: can't decide.
Four places you have been on vacation:
1) Maui
2) Italy
3) France
4) Austria
Three things you do every day (not including hair combing, teeth brushing, etc.)
1) Eat breakfast/dinner with Gary
2) work
3) drive
Three things you are passionate about
1) my business - organizing
2) my marriage
3) Lew's wellbeing
I'll play!
What did you eat for Easter dinner and where? Ham at my niece's home.
What is the most recent movie that you have seen: "Eagle Eye" - not too bad
Where were you born: La Grange, Illinois
Name three places where you have lived: Westchester, Illinois; Newark, Delaware; Wilmington Delaware
Have you ever been in a car accident (explain briefly, if answer is yes): Yes, my first car just days after I bought it.
What is your favorite day of the week and why: The day that I don't have to get up and put on make-up and do my hair and dress nicely-that's my favorite day.
What is your favorite flower: Bird of Paradise and Lilly of the Valley-me too!!!
What is your favorite sport to watch: Beach Volleyball and the Cross Country section of eventing.
What is your favorite ice cream: Pcono Paws by Green's Ice Cream
Have you ever been on a ship: Yep, a couple of cruises.
How many times did you fail your driver's test: couldn't happen I was the driver ed teacher's pet : ) We'd get in the school car and drive to Jack-in-the-Box (where I worked) and get him free tacos- oh yeah, I passed with flying colors!
What do you do when you are bored: Get busy, I hate being bored.
Park or Zoo: Park on horseback
Pearls or diamonds: Both please!
Beach or Mountains: beach, whenever I'm in mountains I'm either freezing my ass off or lost.
How spicy do you like your food (1= not spicy, 5= get the fire extinguisher)? 4
Do you have pets? If so, what kind? only one dog now :( 2 horses and tons o' fish
What do you want to do before you die? Break from a starting gate and ride once around a race track on a horse- don't care if it's my quarter horse and I'm in a western saddle, I just want to feel once what it is like.
Do you still have your tonsils? Yes
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done? Dangerous or stupid? Kayaked places that were stupid dangerous and it was just the grace of god we didn't kill ourselves.
What is your favorite smell? bread baking
Do you consider yourself strong? So-so physically, very strong emotionally
What book are you reading now? "Eat.Pray.Love."
What is your favorite book: "Like Water for Elephants"
Four places you have been on vacation: Scotland, Hawaii, Wyoming, England
Three things you do every day (not including hair combing, teeth brushing, etc.)
1. Smoke (stupid me, Im doing that again)
2. Read the paper
3. Check my e-mail
Three things you are passionate about
1) Horses
2) Making Art
3) Writing
What is the most recent movie that you have seen: "Eagle Eye" - not too bad
Where were you born: La Grange, Illinois
Name three places where you have lived: Westchester, Illinois; Newark, Delaware; Wilmington Delaware
Have you ever been in a car accident (explain briefly, if answer is yes): Yes, my first car just days after I bought it.
What is your favorite day of the week and why: The day that I don't have to get up and put on make-up and do my hair and dress nicely-that's my favorite day.
What is your favorite flower: Bird of Paradise and Lilly of the Valley-me too!!!
What is your favorite sport to watch: Beach Volleyball and the Cross Country section of eventing.
What is your favorite ice cream: Pcono Paws by Green's Ice Cream
Have you ever been on a ship: Yep, a couple of cruises.
How many times did you fail your driver's test: couldn't happen I was the driver ed teacher's pet : ) We'd get in the school car and drive to Jack-in-the-Box (where I worked) and get him free tacos- oh yeah, I passed with flying colors!
What do you do when you are bored: Get busy, I hate being bored.
Park or Zoo: Park on horseback
Pearls or diamonds: Both please!
Beach or Mountains: beach, whenever I'm in mountains I'm either freezing my ass off or lost.
How spicy do you like your food (1= not spicy, 5= get the fire extinguisher)? 4
Do you have pets? If so, what kind? only one dog now :( 2 horses and tons o' fish
What do you want to do before you die? Break from a starting gate and ride once around a race track on a horse- don't care if it's my quarter horse and I'm in a western saddle, I just want to feel once what it is like.
Do you still have your tonsils? Yes
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done? Dangerous or stupid? Kayaked places that were stupid dangerous and it was just the grace of god we didn't kill ourselves.
What is your favorite smell? bread baking
Do you consider yourself strong? So-so physically, very strong emotionally
What book are you reading now? "Eat.Pray.Love."
What is your favorite book: "Like Water for Elephants"
Four places you have been on vacation: Scotland, Hawaii, Wyoming, England
Three things you do every day (not including hair combing, teeth brushing, etc.)
1. Smoke (stupid me, Im doing that again)
2. Read the paper
3. Check my e-mail
Three things you are passionate about
1) Horses
2) Making Art
3) Writing
My indulgence
Hi all,
I hope you'll copy these questions and answer them for yourselves. That will also help us to get to know each other. Most are kind of simple and maybe a little stupid, but some are a little more revealing. Plus, it is my indulgence, so please indulge me!
Linda
What did you eat for Easter dinner and where? It was just a normal day for us. We ate at home but it was nothing special--chicken, rice, broccoli
What is the most recent movie that you have seen: Religulous by Bill Maher
Where were you born: Wilmington, Delaware
Name three places where you have lived:
1) Vienna, Austria
2) Cape Town, South Africa
3) Melbourne, Australia
Have you ever been in a car accident (explain briefly, if answer is yes): Three, but none of them were my fault ;-) Two while I was driving and someone hit me (no injuries, but my mustang was totaled), one while riding in a taxi (three broken ribs and a punctured lung)
What is your favorite day of the week and why: Friday, and I don't know why because Saturday is a regular work day for me, but Friday always seems like a party day.
What is your favorite flower: Bird of Paradise and Lilly of the Valley
What is your favorite sport to watch: American football, but I never get to watch it anymore
What is your favorite ice cream: Mint chocolate chip
Have you ever been on a ship: yes, 30-days across the Atlantic. Loved the trip, hated the ship
How many times did you fail your driver's test: none
What do you do when you are bored: I wish I had time to be bored.
Park or Zoo: both
Pearls or diamonds: neither
Beach or Mountains: both (it seems like I have a hard time making up my mind)
How spicy do you like your food (1= not spicy, 5= get the fire extinguisher)? 10
Do you have pets? If so, what kind? 1 dog and about 20 fish
What do you want to do before you die? Fly into space
Do you still have your tonsils? Yes
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done? Dangerous or stupid? Dangerous= skydiving, Stupid= driving to the desert without enough water
What is your favorite smell? cooking garlic
Do you consider yourself strong? Yes, physically, emotionally...Sometimes
What book are you reading now? I'm reading every Agatha Christie story in order because I've read nothing but serious stuff for the last 8 years.
What is your favorite book: Cloud Atlas by David Mitchell
Four places you have been on vacation:
1) Scandinavia
2) Namibia
3) Okinawa
4) Italy/Greece
Three things you do every day (not including hair combing, teeth brushing, etc.)
1) Eat breakfast/dinner with the whole family
2) Walk the dog
3) Listen to Democracy Now! podcast
Three things you are passionate about
1) Yoga
2) Politics
3) Family
I hope you'll copy these questions and answer them for yourselves. That will also help us to get to know each other. Most are kind of simple and maybe a little stupid, but some are a little more revealing. Plus, it is my indulgence, so please indulge me!
Linda
What did you eat for Easter dinner and where? It was just a normal day for us. We ate at home but it was nothing special--chicken, rice, broccoli
What is the most recent movie that you have seen: Religulous by Bill Maher
Where were you born: Wilmington, Delaware
Name three places where you have lived:
1) Vienna, Austria
2) Cape Town, South Africa
3) Melbourne, Australia
Have you ever been in a car accident (explain briefly, if answer is yes): Three, but none of them were my fault ;-) Two while I was driving and someone hit me (no injuries, but my mustang was totaled), one while riding in a taxi (three broken ribs and a punctured lung)
What is your favorite day of the week and why: Friday, and I don't know why because Saturday is a regular work day for me, but Friday always seems like a party day.
What is your favorite flower: Bird of Paradise and Lilly of the Valley
What is your favorite sport to watch: American football, but I never get to watch it anymore
What is your favorite ice cream: Mint chocolate chip
Have you ever been on a ship: yes, 30-days across the Atlantic. Loved the trip, hated the ship
How many times did you fail your driver's test: none
What do you do when you are bored: I wish I had time to be bored.
Park or Zoo: both
Pearls or diamonds: neither
Beach or Mountains: both (it seems like I have a hard time making up my mind)
How spicy do you like your food (1= not spicy, 5= get the fire extinguisher)? 10
Do you have pets? If so, what kind? 1 dog and about 20 fish
What do you want to do before you die? Fly into space
Do you still have your tonsils? Yes
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done? Dangerous or stupid? Dangerous= skydiving, Stupid= driving to the desert without enough water
What is your favorite smell? cooking garlic
Do you consider yourself strong? Yes, physically, emotionally...Sometimes
What book are you reading now? I'm reading every Agatha Christie story in order because I've read nothing but serious stuff for the last 8 years.
What is your favorite book: Cloud Atlas by David Mitchell
Four places you have been on vacation:
1) Scandinavia
2) Namibia
3) Okinawa
4) Italy/Greece
Three things you do every day (not including hair combing, teeth brushing, etc.)
1) Eat breakfast/dinner with the whole family
2) Walk the dog
3) Listen to Democracy Now! podcast
Three things you are passionate about
1) Yoga
2) Politics
3) Family
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Hanami Heaven
I live in a neighborhood in Tokyo called Nakameguro. My tiny rabbit-hutch apartment is next to the Meguro Gawa (Meguro River.) The river is more like a water canal but it is still pretty though not in a very natural way. The wonderful thing though is that the length of the river is lined on both sides with cherry trees and celebrating "Hanami" or flower viewing festival there is an annual bit deal. This year was one of the best Hanami seasons in recent history. The weather was mild- the blossoms lasted a full two weeks and the throngs were thronging every night! So many people. Food vendors set up little stalls all along the street, and people stroll and look at the trees. During the day it is mostly older couples, young moms, and college girls. At night, after work the bands of office groups and salary men-- louder and more drunk-- join the walking talking and strolling flower viewers.
We enjoy this time a lot- but we are also glad when it finished as our neighborhood goes back to being peaceful and pretty quiet for such a big city. Last night there were still some lingering Hanami-celebrants... but the trees are turning green now and almost all the blossoms have fallen. It is a little sad but it also means I will be able to get a seat in all my neighborhood restaurants again. Yeah!
Collage above is from this year- (with my new camera) - Lauren
Monday, April 6, 2009
Our First Post
Well, I'll get the ball rolling with some news. After 4 years, I'm coming home! Actually, it is just Laura and me this time. Why is a long, long story (and an uninteresting one). We'll be home for three weeks. July 14 to August 4, but at some point, I think Laura and I will take a girl's trip to Canada to see Niagara Falls. That's the plan, anyway. Who knows what will happen once the grandparents learn of this trip.
Linda
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